Beauty Models

In the U.S., every minute, 20 people are abused by an intimate partner.

Take a minute to do something about it. 

 

Our Community Impact

Serving women in Arlington, Bartlett, Collierville, Germantown,
Lakeland, and Millington

90% of women who left an abusive relationship felt empowered and supported to end the cycle of abuse.

Over 200 services delivered to women and children including assistance for childcare, counseling, food, housing, transportation and utilities in the past three years. 

41% of women in our A.I.M. Program reentered the job market or increased their current income through job readiness coaching and one-on-one mentoring.

20% of program graduates serve at various levels in our organization and in the community.

100% of clients served, receive assistance, regardless of their ability, age, economic background, nationality, race, or religion.

 

We empower and support  survivors of domestic abuse.

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What our Clients Say

Economic Security

I was so happy when you helped me get a job. I cried, because now, I can take care of my children. Thank you for believing in me.

Healthy Relationships

The support group is great. My son is involved, too and that's a win for us. I feel like we are getting our lives back on track.

Stable Families

Thank you so much for your help and support. You guys are like angels in my life!

Strong Faith

There was a point where I gave up and was angry with God. I'm more open to giving it another chance.

If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic abuse, there are a two key things you should know.  First, it's not your fault. Second, there are people who can help.

Contact us today.

 

What Is Domestic Abuse?

Domestic abuse, sometimes referred to as domestic violence or intimate partner violence, is a pattern of behavior in which one partner in an intimate relationship attempts to harm or injure, threatens to harm or injure, or actually does inflict harm or injury to the other party, their children, or their property. This is done in an effort to exert power and control over the individual. Domestic abuse primarily occurs in a dating relationship or in a marriage. 

The exertion of power and control can take many forms. There can be emotional abuse, financial abuse, mental abuse, spiritual abuse, verbal abuse, and yes, physical abuse. In each instance, the abuser seeks to use some aspect of the Power and Control wheel below to control or manipulate the victim. The Power and Control Wheel was developed by Ellen Pence, Michael Paymar, and Coral McDonald after years of working with battered women in Duluth, Minnesota.

The legal definition of abuse in Tennessee provides that  "'Abuse' means inflicting, or attempting to inflict, physical injury on an adult or minor by other than accidental means, placing an adult or minor in fear of physical harm, physical restraint, malicious damage to the personal property of the abused party, including inflicting, or attempting to inflict, physical injury on any animal owned, possessed, leased, kept, or held by an adult or minor, or placing an adult or minor in fear of physical harm to any animal owned, possessed, leased, kept, or held by the adult or minor;" - T.C.A. Section 36-3-601

Power and Control Wheel

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What Is the Cycle of Abuse?

The cycle of abuse has historically been used to help identify abusive patterns of behavior between intimate partners. In recent years, a new way of thinking about easily identifiable patters of behavior has been used. 

What is now known as the "Narcissistic Abuse Cycle" focuses on idealization and devaluation with transition stages in between. In the "idealization phase" the abuser focuses a lot of attention and energy on their partner. Psychologist describe this time as the abuser putting their partner on a pedestal. In the "devaluation phase" the abuser's affections change. Their partner is no longer seen as "perfect". Now, they are viewed as worthless. During this phase there is frequently psychological, physical, and verbal abuse.

 

Between the idealization and the devaluation phases are points of transition. At these points, one or the other in the intimate relationship can take steps to stop the cycle of abuse. For the person being victimized, this can be hard to do without resources and support. 

The Transition - The relationship is abandoned by one or the other party in the relationship, or the relationship continues following this cycle.

Idealization - Marked by praise, approval, gifts, excessive attention, and kindness. This is also known as "love-bombing". This is the starting point.

Devaluation - There is criticism, cruelty, disapproval, degradation, rejection, rage, threats of exclusion, and the silent treatment.

The Transition - You set a boundary, you call the person out on their behavior, they meet someone new, or you don't give them what they want.